1. Make sure you have one friend who uses F*CKING as a normal adjective.
“Hey man. That was one hard F*CKING workout”
“You guys want to go to F*CKING lunch?”
“That was a great F*CKING episode of of The Voice”
I mean, I’m sure you have a friend that says FREAKING all the time.
It’s just the Christian version.
But I like to limit it to just one. Cause I can’t handle 2. No really. I’m such a freaking cussing rookie.
See what I did there?

2. Have a group of people you regularly hang out with that don’t go to church.
A group is different than a person.
So for you this may take work.
Join a soccer league.
Join a knitting club.
I don’t care. Just make sure you are hanging out regularly in a group where you are the minority when it comes to your beliefs.

3. Make sure you have one close friend who when you say, “I just downloaded the new Chris Tomlin record”, they look at you with a blank stare and say…”Who?”

4. Stop listening to only Christian music
I’m gonna get raked across the coals for this one, but I stand behind it.
Yes, I believe you should guard what you are putting into your dome.
I stopped listening to Jay-Z on a daily basis because I was pretty much getting numb to hearing him call women “b*tches”.
I do go to his concerts.
I do own his newest record.
Because he has some REALLY good songs.
I mean listen, if Mumford is as far away from Christian music as you can stomach, take some pepto and go to Lollapalooza. You will like what you hear. And I promise you the devil doesn’t own music. God does. And He is in more of it that you know.

5. For the love of all things good and holy, STOP USING THE WORD SECULAR FOR EVERYTHING.
I don’t believe in Christian art and secular art.
I believe in art.
I didn’t eat a secular lunch yesterday just because I went to Wendy’s instead of Chick-Fil-A.
The only thing that can be “Christian” is a human. Sorry. Not even your pets.
Well. Unless it’s a dog. Cause cats are going to hell. Every one of them. Except my cat Riggins.

As I look back on my life… as I’m approaching 40… There is something that really bothers me.
It’s the fact that I spent more time with people who look, act, and live like me than anyone else.
And in the end, this creates a calloused life.
A life filled with safe and cautious as opposed to risk and adventure.
As one who seeks to disturb and disrupt career Christians for the sake of seeing Christ’s face fresh again… I have to consistently challenge my status quo.
And getting out of your Christian bubble will turn your world upside-down and actually strengthen your reliance on Christ alone.

Talk to me ragamuffins…


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  • Jon

    NO….ESPECIALLY your cat riggins. No cat is righteous….no not one.

  • Glen Pizzolorusso

    f*cking brilliant. although I do find that when i listen to mostly christian music, or music written by christ followers, my mind is easier to control and sin and improper thoughts aren’t as forefront as they are when I bump the bass and beats!

    • Dion Evans

      I agree with that Glen. I like lots of other music as well other than Christian music. However, when I do go outside of that bubble I still tend to be cautious. My musical likes range far and wide though.

    • I agree 100%! My issue with music is the lyrics. So even if the beat is killer, if I can’t stomach the lyrics, I have to turn it off. Guys like Jay-Z and Kanye, chicks like Rhianna and Beyonce are straight-up serving the satanic agenda, so I have NO use for them.

      I’ve found “Christian” music for almost every genre now, including the likes of Lecrae, Theocracy, and Fireflight, alongside staples like Third Day and the Newsboys. I listen to almost all “Christian” music, except for my slight dubstep addiction. 😀

  • Can I go, Los? I’ve got one.

    CHRISTIANS: Quit pretending that “Courageous” and “Fireproof” were good movies! They were NOT. In fact, they were HORRIBLE. As a Christian, you are NOT required to like them.

    Revel in the freedom, friends. Revel in the freedom.

    • Pip

      Add “Facing the Giants” to that list! “If you follow Jesus you’ll get everything you ever want!” I’m sorry, that’s not how it works!

      • We could pretty much put all the movies those guys made onto the list.

    • Albert L.

      A-Freakin-Men. To me, “The Blind Side” — THAT’S how you do a movie filled with Christian values right!!

    • crashtx1

      Can I disagree? I really enjoyed Fireproof and Facing the Giants, and I’m pretty critical of movies. Do you judge “secular”(sorry had to throw that in) movies the same, because most of them are f***ing crap(got two in one sentence).

      • You are MOST CERTAINLY allowed to disagree with me! Art is subjective!

        I mean, I’m never gonna ask you for a movie recommendation, but it’s all good! 😉

      • As someone who makes films for a living, I have to agree with Wes on this one. “Courageous”, “Fire Proof” and movies like them do have an audience (proven by the fact the company that makes them makes millions). But trust me, as cinematic storytelling goes, they are pretty bad. Those movies are tailor-made for people who live in Christian Bubbles.

        Truth be told, one of the BEST “Christian” movies I’ve ever seen is “Dead Man Walking.” I challenge you to find a movie (OTHER than “Passion of the Christ”) that better represents the ultimate example of grace and forgiveness and the extent to which God calls us to forgive. And it was made by three of the most liberal people in Hollywood.

        It’s okay to dislike “Christian” movies if they are bad.

        • crashtx1

          Agenda movies abound, both religions and “secular”. Fire Proof for example was not a typical “bubble” movie. It dealt with a man who destroyed his marriage with pornography, then went through the process of trying to restore it and amend for the harm done. Giants on the other hand was a “bubble” movie.

          • Good points. And I agree. Agenda movies in general are usually bad. That’s one reason why so many Christian-themed movies are bad. Of course, the bad writing, acting and directing have a lot to do with it too. 🙂

    • Kelly Haven Russell

      even though I had a difficult time making it through ‘facing the giants’, I did enjoy the purpose of ‘fireproof’. was it a ‘B’ movie, of course, but the message was great. I have never seen ‘Courageous’ and do not plan on doing so. Christian movies as a whole pretty much stink.

      • Agreed. They’re good sermons. In fact, that’s how I describe them to people.

        When someone asks me, “Wes, was ‘Courageous’ a good movie?” I say, “It was a GREAT sermon.”

    • Esther O’Reilly

      What are you comparing those movies to? If you’re comparing them to Casablanca, Schindler’s List and The Sound of Music, well no duh. But by comparison with other Hallmark/Walden Media type films? They hold up pretty well actually. Courageous is their best one yet. They’re learning. Sure, it was still heavy-handed in certain scenes, but overall I thought it was a solid family film. Not great, obviously, but definitely not horrible. I’m saying this as a film geek who watches movies of all kinds. Frankly, so few people in the world (or even the film industry) are capable of making good movies to begin with. When you narrow the pool further to just Christians, it becomes even harder to find talent. That’s why I think it’s a little silly to say “Come on Christians, we gotta make the best movies evah! Hup two! Make Bach and Leonardo Da Vinci proud!” Sorry, this just isn’t a realistic demand. Even Christian music has had more time to produce some interesting artists than Christian film-making. Give it another couple decades. Meanwhile, encourage those who do show some promise, however modest, to keep making films and growing in their craft. Don’t make a habit of snarking just so your hipster Christian friends will think you’re cool.

    • Jawson71

      I would have to disagree aswell, those movies were good movies with storylines that impact people. its important as christians to support movies like this because its time that christians take back the media mountain. stop giving hollywood our money.

  • blakeyoh

    6. Stop wearing cheesy Christian t-shirts!

    I think that ‘popping the Christian bubble’ is important only if you are living Jesus’ call to meet and love those who are far from Him. If you just want to shed a label, then you’re wasting your time.

  • Liz

    I agree with just about everything you said to a point. After suffering from depression and anxiety for over 10 years due to the death of both my parents and my child, I find I’m calmer listening to only Christian music. Now, if I’m in the car with a friend, or in a restaurant, I’m not going to ask to change the station. But when I’m listening to music on my own, I won’t listen to anything mainstream. This principle also applies to just about any media because I know my mind is still very weak right now, and it will take some time for me to be able to watch and listen to things that aren’t Christian-based. I think if someone is in a situation like mine, it’s definitely a good thing to surround yourself with things that are faith-based just because it keeps your mind from straying.

    However, I do have a lot of friends who are of all faiths, and I’ve even been able to witness to someone I work with… which by the way was AWESOME, because I’m not very good at that. Oh, and I swear like a sailor. For real, I’m that friend that uses the “f” word ALL THE TIME.

    And I have two cats that are the best. One is hairless, one is not, and they are best friends. I’m fairly certain you’d think twice about cats if you met mine LOL 🙂

  • Liz Roberson

    I figured hanging out here was enough mingling with a bunch of heathens…

    • Radioblues


  • Yes times a million. Good grief.

  • Lori B

    Everytime I read your blogs I see Jesus. Not church, not cliques, not denominations, but Jesus. Thank you for that. I know I’m not made for this world, but your blog help me not feel so weird all the time.

  • h2moose

    This is so sad…that it even has to be written.

  • Markus

    You took the words out of my…head. Especially the point about labelling everything “Christian” or “Secular”. Aaaaaaaaargh!!!

  • Cindy

    I tend to be more of a Christian who likes to pop bubbles than live in them. And that frequently gets me labeled heathen. It doesn’t help that I AM the person who uses f*cking as a normal adjective and that seems to drive other Christians nucking futs. It’s a word, people, and kind of a fun one at that. My personal pet peeve? Is using saved/unsaved, as in “we had five people get saved at service today, isn’t that wonderful?”. Or (in a whisper) “she’s unsaved, you know” when discussing someone’s personal life. And before you get out the pitchforks and lanterns, yes, I believe that Jesus is Lord and He gave His life so that I can come to God the Father for eternity. I just don’t care for the standard Christian terminology anymore than most Christians care for my “bad words”. If your words turn off people who don’t have a relationship with God, who says your words are good?

    • Courtney

      Do you know the verse, “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear?” Ephesians 4:29 Do you really think the word that you seem so fond of (because it is fun) is wholesome and brings edification to those that hear?
      By the way, I’m not especially fond of “Christian terminology” either. I think it alienates many people and honestly just sounds stuffy and haughty much of the time.

      • Harry

        Herein lies the rub – define “unwholesome.” In my wife’s family the word “fart” is unwholesome. I know people of great faith, who follow Jesus wholeheartedly, and use the word f**k. “Unwholesome” is a very cultural and contextual word – what may be unwholesome to one culture/context is perfectly normal in another. If I know you find a word offensive, and I purposely use it in your presence, then that is wrong. But if I am in a culture that finds it acceptable and normal, then where is the sin? Scripture says to not take God’s name in vain, but other than that it does not specify the kind of language we are to use. In fact, Paul said he was “all things to all people for the sake of the Gospel.” If the people I am with will listen to the Gospel message better because of certain language, then that is the language I will use.

        • Dion Evans

          In trying to be all things to all people we cannot make the truth subjective and let it just be cultural. There should be some things that stand regardless of where we are and who are around. The same way someone who is “outside of the bubble” does not necessarily change to fit a surrounding, why should the Christ follower. There lies that challenge as followers of Christ we need to strike the delicate balance of engaging culture and walking the thin line between truth and bubble popping. Let’s take example from the Jesus we all follow. He was masterful at doing this exact thing.

          • Cindy

            The only truth I know is that Jesus is Lord. Everything else is up for discussion.

          • Dion Evans

            You are correct Cindy!!!

        • Cindy


    • Markus

      I agree with Courtney. We shouldn’t exclude people who don’t talk like us. But we shouldn’t just join them either. We should pursue God an that has an influence of how we talk.

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  • Bill

    Agree with the general idea of not staying within a “bubble”. We were called to be “in” and not “of”. Being faithful to Christ alone in surroundings that are not “christian” are challenging not to come across self-righteous or so “Christian” that no one can relate to you. I have always had friends that have cursed as a way of life..some of them curse like some people breathe.
    We should not just want to be accepted by them. I am accepted by my friends but I also challenge them in Christ.I do not want to use the same offensive language. Why should we?
    Not sure if you are saying that there is not a difference in music expressions. Something of God can be found in all cultures and expressions of cultures. Why shouldn’t there be? He is an awesome God! But just because there is something in an expression that reflects the great God doesn’t mean it is good and should be embraced. Why can someone not express something without profanity?
    I am really trying to understand. Why is there such a need to use these words?
    Are people afraid of being seen as different? The very word “Christian” means to be different..to be Christ-like. No one will a perfect expression of a “Christian” but there will be a difference and it will challenge.
    The other concern here is the criticism of entertainment other believers may like.This is no different self-righteousness than we accuse of others.they are intending to exalt Christ..we may not like it but that is their intent.
    Want to understand.

  • Kelly Haven Russell

    As Christians we are to be IN the world, but not OF the world. We are to be salt and light to those who do not know the true GOD we serve. It’s kinda hard to be salt and light to those who are just like us. That being said, we are to be diligently seeking God and not becoming like the world in all things. Life and people are wonderful and waiting to be lived and known. People think Christians are narrow-minded and weird b/c they see people who do not accept them. People can be accepted b/c of WHO they are. We don’t have to like everything they do. They certainly do not have to like everything about me. Remember, Jesus loved and spent time with people who were not at all
    on the same page with Him.

    • Markus

      Amen! Seems to me like the church keeps swinging back and forth between extremes – first we hate cussing and those who do it, then we just join people who don’t know Jesus in everything they do in the name of tolerance. Either way we’re focused on the external instead of seriously pursuing Jesus. John Piper once said, “Your generation will sacrifice the truth in favour of relationships”. I don’t want that, but I don’t want the other extreme either.

      • Dion Evans

        That is great sentiment. I agree.

  • themidbo

    I just had this very conversation this morning about f-bombs. With my co-worker. In church. Cos that’s where we work.
    I don’t trust people who don’t use ‘sentence enhancers’…you know they are thinking it so, for the love of Pete, release it and let it be free.

    • Dion Evans

      LoL… I can see where you are coming from. Sometimes something we may want to see is way better off being left inside instead of being spilled out. 🙂

  • …adam

    ahem, pastors. this is for you. You can’t speak to non christians from the front of the room if none of them hang out in your living room.

    • …adam

      also for me, but when every pastor looks the exact same it makes me wonder who they know

  • Tom Haulter

    How about this one? Can we stop going around talking about “Rapture” That is a topic the church never even considered until the 1830’s. Give it a rest !

    • blakeyoh

      I have never heard that before. The church never considered the rapture until the 1830s?

    • Dion Evans

      Me neither. I have never heard that date given either. The bible seems to have talked about it way before then.However, I do agree with not being obsessed with it.

  • Dude, you are the ballsiest follower of Christ!

  • joanpball

    The same goes for referring to people as churched and unchurched. I still curse like a truckdriver and, over the 10 years I’ve been a Christian, I’ve only gone to church out of obedience…not because I wanted to be there or liked much about it. I am much more alive and filled with meaningful and challenging encounters when I hang with my atheist, buddhist, yogi, pagan, wiccan friends and discuss my life as a devout follower of Jesus and how it relates to their lives and beliefs than I do with people whose speech is as predictable as the last Christian bestseller to be sanitized by the Christian distribution machine that is Lifeway bookstores. I applaud this post, Carlos. And I hope it will spur your readers to do more than just consider it or post yet another “wow man, you brought me to a deep place” comment. People in this country and this world are hurting and we should be walking along with them, serving them, loving them with complete abandon and without condition every single day. THAT is how transformation happens…not sitting in another small group meeting talking about first world problems and lamenting being flawed human beings for doing something that would make most people I know burst out laughing for how mundane and harmless it is in the grand scheme of things. The world will change when the people who are tasked with serving friends and enemies change. Let it begin with me…

  • Most of the good, upstanding, ladder-climbing, religious people in the church bore me to tears, anyway.

    Give me a real sinner any day.

    • Dion Evans

      Understood… We need to be the real individuals that we are as Christ Followers as we are not called to be cookie cutter.

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  • Laura

    I have to wholeheartedly agree. And while I’m not currently living the life I necessarily feel is balanced in this area – and m sorting that one out.. I grew up in the biggest Christian bubble there was. And hated it. And then I went to college and moved half way round the world a year later to get away from said bubble. And they wonder why kids ‘lose their faith’ in college. We don’t grow up with balance.

    • DeneenLevy

      Wow sooo true

  • Alicia K

    a really fast way to pop the bubble is to go ahead and admit your own questions about God, faith, and life. AND admit them out loud. as much as some christians act like they have the answer to everything, I’m convinced we all have some deep-seeded questions that are flat-out hard to wrestle with. but sometimes we give into the need to look like we have it all together …thus we talk to others who also act they have it all together ….and we all end up talking about how we have it all together and the world needs to get with it, stat. thus, a bubble.
    but in reality, we don’t. we all have wounds or circumstances that fly in the face of the idea that God is good. and if they weren’t there, it wouldn’t be called faith.

  • Kim Sadlier

    I love this!!! I honestly sometimes get so sick of someone telling me I must “place myself positive, Christ-like environment. Get rid of the filth. Bring in the good.” I can do what I can but what I am going to do if I immerse myself too much in Christian music or Christian culture, then I forget what is going on in the world, with the hurting. That is why I personally look for God in the world while pursuing Him. In the music, whether Christian or not, on tv, on the radio, on the way to work/class, in conversations, etc. I aim to pop the Christian bubble. God is bigger than the Christian Bubble.

  • Esther O’Reilly

    By the way, why is it that every time I see somebody telling Christians they need to listen to secular music, they begin listing only choices from the last 10 or 15 years? People, Jay-Z is not the pinnacle of secular music. Hit the rewind button and keep going. Back to the roots of rock and roll, back to the blues, back to boogie woogie. You’ll learn way more about how good music actually got made that way.

  • Sam

    Regarding point 5

    Heard an interview with Lecrae recently talking about that…

    His comment (and I believed he tweeted this as well)

    “Christian is his belief not his genre”

    Keep challenging the status quo

  • QJeannieD

    Wahahaha! I’ve always been ‘that’ Christian. I have said that I’m not bad enough for the world and not good enough for the church. So, I’m actually quite lonely here in a conservative, beat it by the book part of the world. But I hope that my non-Christian friends get a little glimpse of unconditional love and non-judgement and that they know it’s because of my faith. So f**k yeah! (see what I did there?) ;p

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  • timberwraith

    Uh, non-Christian person, here.

    Many of the comments on this thread… Wow.

    Here’s some unsolicited advice. If you decide to hang out with someone who isn’t of your religion, don’t do so because you feel the need to introduce someone “exotic” to your life’s spiritual path. Don’t do so because you are looking for your next convert. Do it because you actually like the person and are interested in them as a person.

    In other words, don’t treat people of different religious beliefs like exploitable objects in a project where you get to put notches in your spiritual belt. Furthermore, when you try to convert someone, you are inevitably implying that their spiritual/religious beliefs are inferior to your beliefs… and that makes you look like a real jerk… and kind of a bigot, too.

    That is all.

  • Great article

    Thanks for the insight


  • JRocka

    Good points Los. When I do hang out with not yet believers, I get excited. I hope I get to be an example of a Christian. Somebody who loves Jesus and them. And dark beer. And 80s punk rock. And horror movies. It’s different for everybody. Some may not feel comfy in a bar or smokey club, but you can hang out at a baseball game or whatever.

    As far as movies, studios market to whoever buys their stuff. Christians want movies that they can watch with their families. Which means Fireproof and all that stuff. It’s harmless cornball stuff. Take out the Jesus stuff and its a hallmark flick. Somebody said The Blind Side below. I would agree. Has a bit of grit. I remember at a old artist gathering a few years back some Hollywood speaker said he thought NYPD Blue was the best tale of redemption he has ever seen. Need to give that a watch. It also has fat guy ass shots. Love you Los!

  • Judah Thomas

    I totally agree. People take the charge to be “IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF IT” to mean that they should hunker in a bunker and whisper the lyrics to “kumbaya.” How can we be a LIGHT into the world if we are terrified of it???? Jesus certainly wasn’t afraid of it.

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