5 tips that will improve your “I’m Sorry Skills”

It’s not often that I’m forced to apologize
Probably only twice a day.
So while I’m still undoing the suck that this involves…
I have 5 tips that will improve your “I’m Sorry Skills”.
1. Forgive 1 person a day
There is nothing better to up your apology game than knowing what it feels like to drop some forgiveness on someone’s soul. Forgive 1 person a day, even the rude bank teller, and you will be able to say I’m sorry a little easier.
2. Apologize to your kids
This may seem like a no brainer, but it’s not. We feel like when we admit our mistakes to our kids, especially when they are smaller, that it will somehow ruin their perception of our strength. Quite the contrary. Apologize to your kids earlier in life, and watch their forgiveness and grace grow.
3. Memorize James 5:16
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”
4. Stop looking at their but.
I just laughed like a 3rd grader when I wrote that.
Listen. “I’m sorry BUT” doesn’t mean I’m sorry. So quit adding a disclaimer to your apologies and just let it be.
5. Don’t just say “I’m sorry”.
The words “I’m sorry” have been royally destroyed by well meaning parents who MAKE their kids say those 2 words and then let them off the hook. Those words are easy. The ones that are not are “I was wrong.” or “What can I do to make it right?” When you say these words to someone you have offended, the apology behaves more like duct tape than scotch tape.

When is the last time you had to say I’m sorry?
Los

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  • To add to #5, it’s critical to say “I’m sorry for…” BE SPECIFIC. Saying “I’m sorry” or even “I was wrong” can mean everything or nothing. If you are specific, the person offended knows exactly what you are sorry for or what you admit to being wrong about.

    It made a huge difference for me in giving and receiving apologies.

  • Yesterday to my daughter

  • I like to ask for forgiveness and be specific in what I did. In my opinion, saying I’m sorry just means I feel bad about it.