I don’t censor my blog comments.
I just don’t.
I mean if someone is being a complete @$$, I’ll let them for a moment and then shut them up.
I’m not here to make friends.
I’m here to have honest conversation that disturbs and disrupts people to see Christ’s face fresh again.
Here are a few thoughts I have on how to use social media to have honest and authentic conversation.
1. Realize that you are not going to convince anyone of anything they don’t already believe through online banter.
Correct me if I’m wrong but I don’t know of anyone who had a twitter conversation and suddenly accepted Jesus or became a Buddhist. It is what it is. You are not smart enough, wise enough, or witty enough to change the world with a single tweet.
2. Everyone except you knows your online persona is way sexier than your offline truth.
If you come correct with this at jump street, people will take their capes and breastplates off faster than if they think you think you are all that.
Admitting your faults while rejoicing in His strength will get you a lot farther in conversation than you imagine.
And my abs online look WAY better than they do offline.
3. Remember that people probably only see 25% of what you blog/tweet/say.
We all think that we are the center of the universe. It revolves around us.
So I say things all the time like…”Why is that guy going off on my because of that one Instagram with a beer in it? I Instagram pictures of beer all the time?”
Um. Earth to Carlos. He is not holding his phone waiting with baited breath for the next unoriginal sunset picture you Instagram.
Newbies to my blog may read something without getting the holistic view of me and suddenly think I’m a stuck up shock jock.
Little do they know I cower in the face of conflict and fear confrontation.
But I can’t place this expectation on my readers.
So I have to be consistent in my inconsistency. 😉
4. Don’t just have conversation in your own space. Have it in other spaces.
When people see you stepping out of your space and entering theirs for conversation they feel safer to be genuine with you in yours.
I regularly visit conversations with opposing views as I and comment in direct opposition to their view without being filled with venom in order to make my place safe for them.
The post below on Elevation is a perfect example.
There are plenty who disagree with me, but the venom filled commentators won’t be gaining conversation from here. The authentically concerned who commented in love will.
It’s not rocket science.
Be an idiot and eat alone.
Be kind and eat with me.
5. Be willing to be wrong.
You will want to take the post down.
You were wrong.
You don’t want to look like an idiot.
You will want to take it down.
Bask in your idiotness for a good while.
And think harder before hitting “publish” next time.
These are some things I do to keep my authentic conversations sharp online.
What are some practices you use to keep it real online?